[Nola0841]

Hello,
I have a Yorkie named Reece and she has been spoiled by me since I got her. She is almost 2 now. Now I have a new boyfriend and he disciplines her when he feels she is bad. He will either spank her on her butt or tell her bad dog and send her to a timeout. She is now scared of him and pees when he punishes her. She also does not alway listen to him. I have been working with her and she listens to me all the time now. I punish her as well when she is bad but I may just tap her slightly cause I don't want to hurt her- just get her attention. I also give positive re-enforcement more than he does. She never pees when I punish her. I tell him my dog is just scared of him and will learn but he states I need to train her to get her to listen to everybody. How do I do that? She only pees with him. She is fine with me and my parents. My boyfriend gets very frustrated with her when she doesn't listen to him (when he tells her to sit or come here). He also doesn't like her and I tried to explain that she can sense that but he doesn't believe me. He will not let her back in my house until he states she is trained and he doesn't have to walk on egg shells around her so she doesn't pee. Help please! She is currently at my parent's house. I miss her so much!
Dana

[reeskujo]

She's most likely peeing and afraid of him because he's spanking her!...First of all there is no reason to be hitting or spanking a dog!...Especially one so little....Telling her no and putting her in a short time out is sufficient enough...It sounds like you both need to enroll in puppy classes where they can teach you how to train her and the proper way of correcting her when she does something wrong...Make sure to give her a treat and praise her when she's done something good as well.

[Nola0841]

Makes a lot of sense. Thank you for responding. I am grateful for the help. Thanks again!
Dana

[tallsally]

What are you doing with a guy who hits your beloved pet and insists that you get rid of your companion? You need to think CLEARLY about the kind of heart inside your boyfriend. He probably hit Reece when you were not around, he's earned the dog's fear. She is scared of him because he hit her.


What is the dog doing that's so darned bad that he's always being "reprimanded"? You REALLY need to attend human/dog training class, STAT. Dogs are not human children.

You need to be the boss, it's your house. Boyfriends come and go, but pets are forever. Are you going to let him hit you? Your kids? Hitting, violence, intimidation or domination should not be a part of ANYONE's life. What a jerk! How he treats animals is how he will treat you too.

[suebgone]

everything tallsally said X's 10 - dump this jerk before he starts hitting you & yes he will. puppy classes are not going to help him one bit - you are dealing with a serious, dangerous problem here

when you get your dog back you do really need to stop spoiling her so much & do some training tho.

you can google submissive urination if it is still a problem without him around. I sincerely hope he didn't ruin her permanently.

good luck

[nattiej1976]

Dana, Im going to have to agree with all the others.....Your home, your dog, your rules......If BF cant behave, smack his butt, and kick him out of the house until HE learns to behave. Weather he agrees with the way you do things or not, he has not right to intrude on your dogs life so harshly and abruptly, you cant talk to a dog and explain to them in words what the changes around the home are all about, of course she is going to be scared and intimidated, if someone is waltzing into her home, and treating her more harshly than she has ever known before.

Whilst puppy classes are always reccomended, he just needs to learn to butt out, this is your dog and home we are talking about and he has no right taking over, for no real reason but those of his own benifit, self importance and need for control. (Which is no good reason whatsoever)

You, for everybodys future happiness need to lay the law down now, and put a stop to this sort of behaviour before it becomes intolerable to you......hes lucky she hasnt bitten him in reaction to his approach........keep an eye out for signs, if he drives her hard enough she may bite out of fear and self preservation.......What would be his reaction to that?

GOOD LUCK, HOPE THAT YOU CAN FIND A HAPPY RESOLVE.

[jman84]

if your dog is peeing in the house then put his nose in it and tap him on the nose with a newspaper and let him no that he shouldnt pee in the house and whenever he pees outside let him know hes a good boy/girl and also give him a doggy treat! dont worry im pretty sure YOUR MAN WANT HIT you! lol

[reeskujo]

Originally Posted by jman84

if your dog is peeing in the house then put his nose in it and tap him on the nose with a newspaper and let him no that he shouldnt pee in the house and whenever he pees outside let him know hes a good boy/girl and also give him a doggy treat! dont worry im pretty sure YOUR MAN WANT HIT you! lol

All that does is teach a dog to be afraid of going to the bathroom...They will simply find a place to go where you can't see them....They don't know their not supposed to go on the floor...Would you correct a baby who isn't potty trained for going in it's diaper?...Of course not...Correction after the fact does not work...If you catch the dog in the act then you simply take it outside and say"Go potty Here"...If you don't catch them then you have to simply clean up the mess and move on!

[Poohbear]

Nattie gave you excellent advice! If my dogs started submissive peeing because of someone else in the house, I would then ask "Why?" Your boyfriend is not good! So, after saying that, do you want your dog back with you, or do you want the man?
After you answer that question, then decide what you want to do.

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