Hello,
I have a Yorkie named Reece and she has been spoiled by me since I got her. She is almost 2 now. Now I have a new boyfriend and he disciplines her when he feels she is bad. He will either spank her on her butt or tell her bad dog and send her to a timeout. She is now scared of him and pees when he punishes her. She also does not alway listen to him. I have been working with her and she listens to me all the time now. I punish her as well when she is bad but I may just tap her slightly cause I don't want to hurt her- just get her attention. I also give positive re-enforcement more than he does. She never pees when I punish her. I tell him my dog is just scared of him and will learn but he states I need to train her to get her to listen to everybody. How do I do that? She only pees with him. She is fine with me and my parents. My boyfriend gets very frustrated with her when she doesn't listen to him (when he tells her to sit or come here). He also doesn't like her and I tried to explain that she can sense that but he doesn't believe me. He will not let her back in my house until he states she is trained and he doesn't have to walk on egg shells around her so she doesn't pee. Help please! She is currently at my parent's house. I miss her so much!
Dana

[reeskujo]

She's most likely peeing and afraid of him because he's spanking her!...First of all there is no reason to be hitting or spanking a dog!...Especially one so little....Telling her no and putting her in a short time out is sufficient enough...It sounds like you both need to enroll in puppy classes where they can teach you how to train her and the proper way of correcting her when she does something wrong...Make sure to give her a treat and praise her when she's done something good as well.

Makes a lot of sense. Thank you for responding. I am grateful for the help. Thanks again!
Dana

What are you doing with a guy who hits your beloved pet and insists that you get rid of your companion? You need to think CLEARLY about the kind of heart inside your boyfriend. He probably hit Reece when you were not around, he's earned the dog's fear. She is scared of him because he hit her.


What is the dog doing that's so darned bad that he's always being "reprimanded"? You REALLY need to attend human/dog training class, STAT. Dogs are not human children.

You need to be the boss, it's your house. Boyfriends come and go, but pets are forever. Are you going to let him hit you? Your kids? Hitting, violence, intimidation or domination should not be a part of ANYONE's life. What a jerk! How he treats animals is how he will treat you too.

everything tallsally said X's 10 - dump this jerk before he starts hitting you & yes he will. puppy classes are not going to help him one bit - you are dealing with a serious, dangerous problem here

when you get your dog back you do really need to stop spoiling her so much & do some training tho.

you can google submissive urination if it is still a problem without him around. I sincerely hope he didn't ruin her permanently.

good luck

Dana, Im going to have to agree with all the others.....Your home, your dog, your rules......If BF cant behave, smack his butt, and kick him out of the house until HE learns to behave. Weather he agrees with the way you do things or not, he has not right to intrude on your dogs life so harshly and abruptly, you cant talk to a dog and explain to them in words what the changes around the home are all about, of course she is going to be scared and intimidated, if someone is waltzing into her home, and treating her more harshly than she has ever known before.

Whilst puppy classes are always reccomended, he just needs to learn to butt out, this is your dog and home we are talking about and he has no right taking over, for no real reason but those of his own benifit, self importance and need for control. (Which is no good reason whatsoever)

You, for everybodys future happiness need to lay the law down now, and put a stop to this sort of behaviour before it becomes intolerable to you......hes lucky she hasnt bitten him in reaction to his approach........keep an eye out for signs, if he drives her hard enough she may bite out of fear and self preservation.......What would be his reaction to that?

GOOD LUCK, HOPE THAT YOU CAN FIND A HAPPY RESOLVE.

if your dog is peeing in the house then put his nose in it and tap him on the nose with a newspaper and let him no that he shouldnt pee in the house and whenever he pees outside let him know hes a good boy/girl and also give him a doggy treat! dont worry im pretty sure YOUR MAN WANT HIT you! lol

[reeskujo]

Originally Posted by jman84

if your dog is peeing in the house then put his nose in it and tap him on the nose with a newspaper and let him no that he shouldnt pee in the house and whenever he pees outside let him know hes a good boy/girl and also give him a doggy treat! dont worry im pretty sure YOUR MAN WANT HIT you! lol

All that does is teach a dog to be afraid of going to the bathroom...They will simply find a place to go where you can't see them....They don't know their not supposed to go on the floor...Would you correct a baby who isn't potty trained for going in it's diaper?...Of course not...Correction after the fact does not work...If you catch the dog in the act then you simply take it outside and say"Go potty Here"...If you don't catch them then you have to simply clean up the mess and move on!

Nattie gave you excellent advice! If my dogs started submissive peeing because of someone else in the house, I would then ask "Why?" Your boyfriend is not good! So, after saying that, do you want your dog back with you, or do you want the man?
After you answer that question, then decide what you want to do.

If you want more opinions, come back.

Originally Posted by Nola0841

Hello,
I have a Yorkie named Reece and she has been spoiled by me since I got her. She is almost 2 now. Now I have a new boyfriend and he disciplines her when he feels she is bad. He will either spank her on her butt or tell her bad dog and send her to a timeout. She is now scared of him and pees when he punishes her. She also does not alway listen to him. I have been working with her and she listens to me all the time now. I punish her as well when she is bad but I may just tap her slightly cause I don't want to hurt her- just get her attention. I also give positive re-enforcement more than he does. She never pees when I punish her. I tell him my dog is just scared of him and will learn but he states I need to train her to get her to listen to everybody. How do I do that? She only pees with him. She is fine with me and my parents. My boyfriend gets very frustrated with her when she doesn't listen to him (when he tells her to sit or come here). He also doesn't like her and I tried to explain that she can sense that but he doesn't believe me. He will not let her back in my house until he states she is trained and he doesn't have to walk on egg shells around her so she doesn't pee. Help please! She is currently at my parent's house. I miss her so much!
Dana

I only read the first few lines so forgive me its late here. Your bf needs to speak in a higher pitch voice and only praise her. Only you should punish her when she is bad. maybee he should spend 10 mins a day just praising her and stroking her.

This guy is a dominant control freak. The way he is treating your dog is only a sneak preview of the way he will treat your children, should you commit your life to him. He'll be smacking your newborn on the face for exhibiting a "defiant attitude" when he cries. He'll leave the baby in his crib and refuse to feed him, change him, or play with him until he's "learned some respect." He's the one who needs training. Demand that he listens to you, and shows you the respect you deserve before you let him back in your house. (You did say it's YOUR house, didn't you?) You are not his property, and neither is your dog, for that matter. He doesn't have the right to boss you around.

I have to agree, it sounds like your boyfriend has some serious control issues. Not just because of the way he's treating your dog, but because of the way he's treating you.

He doesn't have to like your dog, but he should respect you enough to listen to you and treat the dog humanely, which he is not doing. It's your house, right? Why are you allowing him to make decisions about whether your dog is allowed in your house or not?

Serious warning bells should be going off. This is not a good situation, and you need to take action now. He needs to learn to respect you, and you need to show him the door until he does.

[wishbone]

Dogs are just like toddlers, when you hurt him he's scared and will remember that for a long time. And dogs used their super sensitive nose and can even differentiate the changes on others around him especially humans. Talk to your bf about it, don't hurt the dog's feeling, make some happy events together for him.

i know i am a little late to this forum and to this topic but i must say i have to agree to everyone stating that you should not hit your dog. he or she will learn in time and with a constant good attitude and praise. i agree dogs are like children i 2 girls one boy and another boy on the way and my border terrier charlie, full house hehe. now let me explain my dog is no angel, he was 7 mo when we got him and he pooped and peed in the house for 2 weeks till he finally learned that its not o.k to do that, after repeatably catching him doing it and showing him the door and the huge back yard that he go anywhere on, he stopped. thats not the end of it he was and probably still is a trash diving hole digging connoisseur. does it frustrate me? you bet it does. back to topic, if your bf is spanking the dog it's not going to teach him anything, i totally agree. also keeping at your parents house because your bf is frustrated thats, its normal no one person is the same.respect is earned, not only in the human world but in the human world too.you both should seek professional help with your dog training as described as so many has posted. here where i start to disagree and also why im posting this message. to all the replies not all but most, people replied and said that hes is going to probably turn around and hit her also stating that when you have or alredy do have a newborn he will smack it in the face, leave him in the crib to cry for hours on end or. telling this woman she needs to dump him yada yada yada.... i am a male only into my early 30's and i cant believe some of the advise that had been given. some of the advise seems to go way beyond and sounds like personal experience and that being said i have to say that everyone deserves a chance human and animal alike. when you read text it can get misconstrued (give a dog a bone) peace.

why does he want you to get rid of the dog? if he is hitting the dog infront of you, what is he doing when you are not in the room? he wants you to get rid of your beloved pet because he is trying to control you and your possessions. he is being abusive. he is afraid this dog will bite him and so get rid of the dog before it happens. that way you don't have something that truly loves you and that you truly love.

I have seen this way too many times.

I am sorry to say, this guy needs to kicked out of the house and you my friend need to find a partner that loves you and your pets and not for controlling reasons or for something to beat.

Get rid of the boyfriend!

I have been wit the man for 1 and a half years i started noticing my dog of 7 years who i adore was being a bit weird. not peeing but not being as hyper and being very wary so i asked my boyfriend who denied anything saying my dog was just a weird dog. my dog is the best thing that ever happened to me and i have trained him well but one day my dog bit him and he hit him so his stuff got packed and he was out the door his family r shocked at him and he cant beleive im picking a dog over him i think a bit is jealousy because the dog gets more attention or something, he has since apologised to my dog and is trying so hard to get back in with us, if i never said out he would still be hitting him now.i owe it to be the voice for my dog, he has the same arguement about training him, he is my dog i train him my way with my rules.


its not the dog that needs trained its the boyfriend

[Lara's mom]

I have to agree with everybody else. I would add that ANYBODY who laid a hand on either of my girls would be out the door so fast, he wouldn't know what hit him. This guy is abusive and controlling and unless you really want a huge heap of problems in your life, ditch him! He's bad news.

I agree with a lot of what has been said particularly about it being YOUR house, YOUR dog. If you truly love this poor little dog you will take care of her and keep her safe from the wolf. She is in REAL DANGER and she KNOWS it. Trust her. Dogs know more than we do about peoples inner souls.
I would not trust that BF myself, not as far as I can kick him, he is at best uncaring, unkind and insensitive and if you stay with him you will learn the hard way. better TO be tough NOW! Your dog is telling you something , you should listen to her.

I have seen this before. My own son was too hard on his little working dog many years ago and to this day she will dissapear when supposed to be helping him because he simply growled. I have seen her so upset that she peed too years ago. Fortunatly he had enough sense to repent but it still scared her for life and yet she is very loved by all.

So please whatever else you do take care of your dog responsably, protect her, its for your sake also as well as hers.

hope this helps you
genuinly concerned

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