My two 1/2 year old chiuaua/jack russell cross is terrified of my boyfriend, the first year I had her I was dating someone else and she adored him... the guy I have been with now tries so hard to get my dog to accept him but she is still so scared...
he is the only one that gives treats when we are both home and he tries to play with her all the time...he doesn't talk in a loud vioce and he is a really nice guy... I don't understand why she is so scared. She hides if I'm not home, she has bitten him twice when I was not home, she will lose control of her bowels or urinate, shiver or pant excessively....My boyfeind has never hurt her and it truley hurts him that she is so scared. We have a year old shi tzu that is very rambunctious....he plays with my other dog great and he gets along with my BF wonderfully... any insight in this matter would be greatly appreciated.... I have spoke with my vet on more than one occasion and have asked about axiety meds of treatments....they do not feel that this is right for her and she just needs to warm up to him... We have lived together for 7 months and at times it seems to be getting better but at others it doesn't...I don't know what to do...

You have a very hard situation...
Your exBF is accetable to your dog but your present BF is not...
maybe your dog is in process of adjustment...
And she find it hard...
Give her a time...I guess...
And let your BF continue his good treatment to your dog...

[CorkyMax]

Originally Posted by acain

My two 1/2 year old chiuaua/jack russell cross is terrified of my boyfriend, the first year I had her I was dating someone else and she adored him... the guy I have been with now tries so hard to get my dog to accept him but she is still so scared...
he is the only one that gives treats when we are both home and he tries to play with her all the time...he doesn't talk in a loud vioce and he is a really nice guy... I don't understand why she is so scared. She hides if I'm not home, she has bitten him twice when I was not home, she will lose control of her bowels or urinate, shiver or pant excessively....My boyfeind has never hurt her and it truley hurts him that she is so scared. We have a year old shi tzu that is very rambunctious....he plays with my other dog great and he gets along with my BF wonderfully... any insight in this matter would be greatly appreciated.... I have spoke with my vet on more than one occasion and have asked about axiety meds of treatments....they do not feel that this is right for her and she just needs to warm up to him... We have lived together for 7 months and at times it seems to be getting better but at others it doesn't...I don't know what to do...

I have stopped myself a couple of times from replying to your post, but I have decided to "jump in" and hope you will not get angry with me for what I am about to say----It is a suspicion I got as soon as I read your post. I may be way off base and even if I am on target, you will not want to believe it could be true! I am wondering if the dog is afraid of your boyfriend because your boyfriend may have a dual personality that you are unaware of--and yes I know you said he gets along with the other dog but maybe he just doesn't like this particular dog and when you are gone (which is when the dog goes into a panic) things are going on that you are unaware of! If the dog is terrified of him and is trying to hide to get away from the guy and yet has bitten him a couple times ----doesn't add up---sounds like your boyfriend
is after her for some reason, and as I write this I am becoming increasingly more concerned for your dog!! I only hope I am wrong--but something is not right here and I feel so bad for your poor dog----a dog would not be that scared, and esp. when it knows it is going to be left alone with the guy! Sorry but I had to mention this as I love dogs and don't want them to be hurt physically or mentally!!

I dont think you forced your dog in it. If yes than it is good. I think may be there is something about your boy friend which she does not like. Dont know what is that but why dont you bring another puppy? When she will see that other dog is playing nice with him than she will be encourage too.

[bavery1986]

Did you ever find a solution to this problem?? I have the SAME problem!! I have 2 dogs. A pomapoo and a toy poodle. My pomapoo is a huge baby and definitely a mommy's boy. I don't have a serious boyfriend currently and I hate to say part of the reason is bc of my dog. Anytime I start dating a guy the first couple of times they come over he's fine and loves them ( he usually always loves people ) but after they hang around too much he starts doing all the same things with exceptions of the biting! He gets so jealous when a guy is around too much. He starts pantings and hiding from them behind me. Follows me all around my house and won't leave my side. He even pees uncontrollably when the guy goes to pet him. I don't know what the deal is and I am at a loss of what to do!!! Please help if you ever found a solution.. My other dog acts perfectly fine so I just don't understand!

[Pitbull Lover]

Hello,

I believe there is a two fold solution to your problem. One... your boyfriend should not give any attention to your dog at all. When he walks in the door he should not give eye contact, talk to her or touch her. You as well should not talk to her or touch her when she is having her unusual reaction to your boyfriend because affection = agreeing with the dogs behavior or mind set. This might sound mean but your doing more harm to the dog if you give it a positive relationship (petting, telling her it's all right, holding her) with her negative reaction.

Two... walk your dog before your boyfriend comes over till she is tired. Then when he gets there, go for a walk with you leading and him walking with you. Eventually over time, hand the leash to your boyfriend so he is walking her. The walk is a very good bonding exercise.

Don't expect overnight success. This will take time. But remember... your attitude and thoughts are very important... be positive.

Hope this helps.

[NatalieR]

Oh Boy!

Well, You have to ask yourself if your dog may be seeing something beyond what your eyes can see...
If you can honestly say your BF is totaly cool then you need to practice trust with your dog and him... When your home, calmly sit close to your BF and keep the dog in your lap and take baby steps by putting your hand on his leg or your head on his shoulder when the dog reacts badly put her/him down on the ground and sit, wait a few mins then repeat... do this in similar situations like walks... play time at the dog parks. your shi tzu is a great teacher for your new pup. Your chi-russel needs to trust that you trust your BF.

Hope this helps somehow <3

[narcisalin]

it's funny...but I think for you is a real problem. I hope you fix it

[brokenhearted]

Please, please, PLEASE read this. I haven't even read all of the other posts because tonight I am sitting here broken hearted. My little Chorkie was always terrified of my boyfriend. He would bark and growl any time my boyfriend got near me. I thought he was being spoiled and jealous. I was SO VERY WRONG! Yesterday I left my boyfriend for and hour and a half and by the time I got home my boyfriend had killed my little best friend Jojo. There were signs I didn't really see that now are plain as day!!! If your dog is still acting this way don't wait until it's too late. At the very least find a new home for your baby. I will have this regret for the rest of my life. My dog was trying to protect me. A little tiny 6 pound dog. Who does things like this?? I am so very devastated. Please take action don't make the same mistake I did.
ALSO....I kicked my boyfriend out, so technically he is my Ex-boyfriend. I couldn't be with someone who could do something so horrible, especially knowing how much I loved my puppy.

[dogdragoness]

Originally Posted by Pitbull Lover

Hello,

I believe there is a two fold solution to your problem. One... your boyfriend should not give any attention to your dog at all. When he walks in the door he should not give eye contact, talk to her or touch her. You as well should not talk to her or touch her when she is having her unusual reaction to your boyfriend because affection = agreeing with the dogs behavior or mind set. This might sound mean but your doing more harm to the dog if you give it a positive relationship (petting, telling her it's all right, holding her) with her negative reaction.

Two... walk your dog before your boyfriend comes over till she is tired. Then when he gets there, go for a walk with you leading and him walking with you. Eventually over time, hand the leash to your boyfriend so he is walking her. The walk is a very good bonding exercise.

Don't expect overnight success. This will take time. But remember... your attitude and thoughts are very important... be positive.

Hope this helps.

That's CM BS if you ask me, what about socialization? Did you socialize her with not only your BF at the time but lots of other men, women, kids & etc...? If not then dogs dont generalize so she may not know that this guy is as good as your ex.

Of course, unfortunately, what another poster said about abuse when your not around is a possibility as well. Not to say that it is, but it could be ... Jus saying.

[kawaii2007]

Originally Posted by acain

My two 1/2 year old chiuaua/jack russell cross is terrified of my boyfriend, the first year I had her I was dating someone else and she adored him... the guy I have been with now tries so hard to get my dog to accept him but she is still so scared...
he is the only one that gives treats when we are both home and he tries to play with her all the time...he doesn't talk in a loud vioce and he is a really nice guy... I don't understand why she is so scared. She hides if I'm not home, she has bitten him twice when I was not home, she will lose control of her bowels or urinate, shiver or pant excessively....My boyfeind has never hurt her and it truley hurts him that she is so scared. We have a year old shi tzu that is very rambunctious....he plays with my other dog great and he gets along with my BF wonderfully... any insight in this matter would be greatly appreciated.... I have spoke with my vet on more than one occasion and have asked about axiety meds of treatments....they do not feel that this is right for her and she just needs to warm up to him... We have lived together for 7 months and at times it seems to be getting better but at others it doesn't...I don't know what to do...

same thing happend to me.. my chihuahua is okay with my boyfriend and he sleeps with him all the time but my king charles cavalier goes into a hide out and shivers when he sees my boyfriend... but my boyfriend cleans after hime.. cleans his poo and pee.. feeds him food and pet him all the time .. he never bite my boyfriend but .. it annoys me because my boyfriend is living withe me and i love my dog so much.. but he is so nice to my cavalier though.. when my cavalier had a seizure he carried him with me to ER and after that to 3 different vet hospital and waited there all day with me for my cavalier to be diagnosed by a mri scans and tons of tests...he is okay with my boyfriend he he feeds him chicken -__- but other than that nope... and when my boyfriend is around he has to sleep right beside me .. * actually around my head.. he is 12 pounds and my neck hurts like **** everyday... !! my cavalier dont like boys in general and he hates it when other dogs even try to touch me.. he gets jealous very easily... sigh.. but i really want to know why too..when my boyfriend is disappointed.. it has been half a year.. all his efforts shows no improvements.. it gets to a point i can;t leave them alone... * hint my boyfriend has to go everywhere with me... including the days i go to the library to study ...wich gets annoying, i understand* he has tried so hard.. i see it before my eyes and i never leave them alone .. so i have no ideal why this is happening... i really really want to know why..if u have solutions please let me know

Originally Posted by brokenhearted

Please, please, PLEASE read this. I haven't even read all of the other posts because tonight I am sitting here broken hearted. My little Chorkie was always terrified of my boyfriend. He would bark and growl any time my boyfriend got near me. I thought he was being spoiled and jealous. I was SO VERY WRONG! Yesterday I left my boyfriend for and hour and a half and by the time I got home my boyfriend had killed my little best friend Jojo. There were signs I didn't really see that now are plain as day!!! If your dog is still acting this way don't wait until it's too late. At the very least find a new home for your baby. I will have this regret for the rest of my life. My dog was trying to protect me. A little tiny 6 pound dog. Who does things like this?? I am so very devastated. Please take action don't make the same mistake I did.
ALSO....I kicked my boyfriend out, so technically he is my Ex-boyfriend. I couldn't be with someone who could do something so horrible, especially knowing how much I loved my puppy.

ur boyfriend killed ur dog?? did u report it?? O.O.... if my boyfriend killed my dog I would make sure he gets a legal punishment... i think u should call animal control... even if u love ur bf.. this is too much... killing an animal esp ur own dog.. this needs to be reported... * i treat my dogs like my own kids...* i would sue my bf's sorry ass if he did that..

[Pupernickel]

What Kawaii2007 said, you should report him. If my boyfriend did that, he wouldn't just be kicked out, he would be sitting his ass in jail. Probably with some hefty damage on him done by yours truly.