she does it always cant stand? he just lets her do it i give her consquenses i cand stand to even be at home he dont seem to mind it we fight everyday about this and the dog no right from wrong no excuses

Huh? I don't understand what she's doing, but I am more upset about the construction of this sentence!

You need to explain the question more. We are not psychic, we need to know what the dog is actually doing.

Either English is not your first language or you never properly learned to write. Regardless, it is difficult to understand your question, but it seems that your dog was untrained and for a while she was fine, but now she is not.I am not sure what your dog is doing wrong (as you do not state it), but obedience training is needed - for you and the dog. Obedience training not only teaches the dog, but, more importantly, teaches YOU how to properly control your dog without hitting, yelling or any cruelty. I've often had more response with a strong stare and a point than anything else. Keep in mind that even once your dog is trained, you'll have to keep at it. My pups always need reminders and work. How well your dog listens ultimately depends on you. But there's a difference between being firm or authoratative and hitting/yelling. If your boyfriend refuses to train this dog, YOU should look into it. It will help all of you. While I never recommend just a few classes, in this case, perhaps a few classes along with a good training book (and time and patience and dedication) will do wonders for this dog. Remember, consistency is also needed.Good luck!