My boyfriends daughter wanted a puppy so my boyfriend said it could live at his house. The daughter chooses not to come over every weekend - my boyfriend and I take care of the dog.The ex-wife said she would like to come over once a week and pick up the dog, take it to obedience training with the daughter...then bring it back to my boyfriends house the same evening. The ex-wife does'nt allow the dog in her house - so why pay for the training if the daughter can't handle the dog on a consistant basis? My boyfriend and I would take care of the dog.Why pay for training if the dog is not even gonna live at her house?Obedience training only works if it is continually re-inforced - if the daughter isn't there to work with the dog why bother with the training- The X is controlling and manipulative, and has often come to my boyfriends house or called him and told him what is to be done in HIS household. I'm thinking she's just wanting to control what goes on in his house- again.my boyfriend and I are both experienced dog ownersOur dogs are very well behaved - without obedience training - just time and consistancy.My boyfriend asked me what I thought - that's why it's my problem -

If the dog is not allowed in her house then just say no. Your bf should tell her that he will train the dog.

Sounds like she is just looking for a reason to be controlling and manipulative. Tell her thank you, but no thank you. Remind her that if you are both capable of raising her child, you should be able to handle a new puppy without her guidance.

Well it seems like there is more of a problem then the dog. I think that he needs to lay down the rules to her about this is my house and I will take the dog to training with our daughter. Until he does that she will contitune to do what she can.

All that is fine and dandy. But you are just the GF, it's their family affair. Why are you sticking your nose in this?

Since his daughter's dog lives in your house, reinforce the obedient school lessons with him yourselves when the daughter isn't there.

Sounds as if this is your problem: "The X is controlling and manipulative, and has often come to my boyfriends house or called him and told him what is to be done in HIS household."Granted the situation at hand is something to justifiably complain about, but it fits nicely in your statement. Talking to your bf about how you feel seems like a good idea. You don't mention if the two of you live together or not, but if so, you have some say-so in what goes on in your house. If not, then you can tell him how you feel, but you have no say-so about what happens in HIS house. Talk to your man.

What difference does it make if she's paying for the training? Why does that hurt you? If you don't live there and it's HIS house and HIS dog and HIS daughter and HIS ex, why is this your problem?